Who are we?

Thyrsus is a private society for beautiful, intelligent, and adventurous individuals who long for something more than ordinary sexual and romantic encounters. It was started by a couple, Paul and Violet, who felt the need to curate erotic events that are more selective than available alternatives, while remaining financially accessible.

Thyrsus was created to meet this vision; not for profit, but for pleasure. Membership is free by design – nobody can pay their way in. All members are vetted according to strict criteria including physical attractiveness, open-mindedness, and responsible behavior. We look for people who are both sexy and sex positive.

What do we do?

Thyrsus has two purposes: connecting its beautiful members, and making their fantasies come true. We facilitate the organization of intimate, safe and affordable erotic events. Group play and sex parties can be wonderful, but also very hit-or-miss. In a perfect world, it should be easy for hot, trustworthy, and kinky people to meet others like them. In practice, most parties either let anyone in or cater to wealthy individuals regardless of their qualities. You shouldn’t have to choose between attractiveness, adventurousness, and safety. Our network and events aim to bring them all together.

Where are we located?

Thyrsus is currently based in New York City. While we want to keep our network selective and our events intimate, we may expand to other locations for occasional events.

How do I join?

If you think you have what it takes to join Thyrsus, please fill our initial application form. If you meet our criteria, we will be in touch shortly. You can choose how you want us to contact you if your initial application is approved: via email or via Telegram, to fully preserve your anonymity. If you don’t hear back from us within two weeks, you should assume that your request to join Thyrsus has been denied.

What about privacy?

We care obsessively about preserving the privacy of our members. This is why we will never ask anyone to share their real names or other identifying information. Pictures uploaded through our application portal are temporarily stored on an encrypted private server, and immediately deleted after membership is approved or denied. We also offer the option to handle all communication anonymously through encrypted chats on Telegram.

Why the strange name?

A thyrsus (pronounced “thirs-us”, as in “thirst” and “us”) is a staff of giant fennel topped with a pinecone, once carried during festivals and ceremonies by followers of Dionysus, the Greek god of wine, ecstasy, and pleasure.

Those who carry the thyrsus and partake in his rituals are believed to become possessed and empowered by the god himself…